"I'll be your mess and you be mine, that was the deal we had signed"
Gayle Forman, Where she went
When I am out and I see the mom who has the perfect hair, makeup applied and cute outfit out shopping with her 3 kids I find myself taking stock. A once over show this mommy in her favorite jeans, tennis shoes and my hair in a ponytail. Not because I don't want to look more polished but I can't figure out how. Just to get out of the house to go certain places I have to start getting ready a couple hours ahead of time. I try and shower during the double nap so my hair can start to air dry and cut down on the blow dry time. I make the bottles, grab the sippy cups, extra diapers for both girls, snacks, bibs, baby food and toys to keep them occupied.
By the time nap is over and its almost time to go, I get everyone up, diapers changed, clothes on, hair brushed and shoes on. My husband helps with these things and for him to get ready is ten minutes max but somehow no matter how early I start I find myself standing in my pajamas with 10 minutes to get ready.
Then its a rush to apply make up, run a brush thru the hair, grab clothes and socks and bolt downstairs to the car where everyone is buckled and ready for our trip out.
Don't get me wrong, its not that I look hideous and I am not in sweat pants or anything but when I see the other moms who are lazily browsing thru the aisles in the jeans tucked into the cute boots and nice cardigan, I really start to wonder. I even have these well behaved little girls that make it easy for me to get them ready. My husband is really good looking and my kids are adorable and I often wonder if when we are seen as a family out together if people think.."I wonder how she landed that cute family?"
I feel like I am in a state of disrepair. The rusty car that clutters the driveway. I have the best of intentions but with the amount on my plate I find myself always in last place. I am actually okay with that because the mommy automatically puts everyone first. I think I need to make a deal with myself to try and do the small things that will make me a little more polished.
- Keep those eyebrows on the 3 week wax schedule- 3 weeks needs cleaned up. 4 weeks leaves me with an eye beard thus making my eye shadow look like a 5 o'clock shadow.
- Don't let the gray hairs overtake you, get that hair colored and shaped so the hair doesn't just hang there. You may feel old but you don't have to look old!
- Stop letting my clothes get so worn that I have holes in my socks and my underwear.
- Stop whining about money and buy myself a pair of shoes that isn't a tennis shoe.
This last one is hard to admit but in the interest of being honest and straight forward, I have to say this. I was pregnant twice in under 2 years so I have more maternity clothes than normal clothes. I wear the t-shirts still because I don't have the time to go and buy more clothes and the money is a little tight. These aren't always flattering.
5. Go buy some clothes that aren't maternity and either give the clothes away or pack them away.
I don't want to look perfect but I would like to not be running out of the house, putting shoes on in the car and wondering if I look okay enough to go somewhere. I find myself chanting in my head."please let this not be the day I run into someone I know". Its too much pressure. So I will have to commit to my list and one by one polish this mommy up a bit. I need to do it for me because sooner or later I will run into someone I know and instead of quickly turning around and trying to escape I want to be proud and have them think..How does she do it? How does she look put together and have two kids?
Being more polished, its my goal!
(This is my beautiful baby and I tame that hair every day even though its perfect the way it is)
This post is dedicated to my best friend Kathy, for years I look at her and her beautiful hair, makeup, outfits and 3 kids and think..HOW DOES SHE DO IT? She makes motherhood look easy and she does it with continued grace. I love her because she loves me even when I am at my most unpolished!